Attachment

I think that one of the reasons due to which I suffer is the attachment to impractical things. I enjoy being attached, but I am not able to get out of it easily, which brings misery. For example, consider a case when a man loves a woman. The woman loves another man, who also loves her. The first man is a good friend of both the woman and the second man. Now, after the woman realises her love for the second man, she gives most of her time and attention to the second man only. The first man feels that the woman has changed, as she is devoting very less time, as compared to the time he used to give her. As a result he feels anger, frustration and loneliness. But simultaniously he can not get away with her thoughts. The solution. Swami vivekananda said in his lecture "work and its secret". Have attachment to your subject in order to enjoy it. But simultaniously have an equal power of detachment to come out of the situation at your will. Enjoy but be not enjoyed. Rule but be not ruled. This is similar to the case of a bee which came to sip the honey, but its feet stuck to the surface. Why suffer from the imperfection of others and yours in an imperfect world. Why not take it as a learning experience, and use this for getting detached, growing within and finding the perfect one- the God. If you succeed in doing this you won't have any complaints or regrets against anyone. You will calm down and experience peace and bliss.